Does Your Child Tune You Out?

You might be the most eloquent speaker, however you need a listener to convey your thoughts efficiently. For successful communication, feelings of the other side must be taken into account. This is of paramount importance in family communication. If you feel that your child doesn’t listen to you, it’s time to consider a change in the way you’ve been going about it. Without the participation of your child, a fruitful conversation cannot take place.

Parents are often inclined to think that they have to be an educator at home. This is true, but when it comes to communication, lecturing is not the way to change your young child’s behaviour. A parent must first be a good listener. You have to know the person that you are responsible for. To achieve this, you have to ensure that you and your children have a comfortable and open relationship. To be clear, children must feel confident, safe and feel that when they express themselves, they won’t be judged, interrogated, intimidated or embarrassed. This requires secure communication.

Children often shape their behavior based on their experiences with you. If your child has established a habit of tuning you out as soon as you start to talk and mention something related to them, cast your mind back to your recent communications. Sometimes we can be unaware of the impact of seemingly trivial words or gestures.

At the end of the day, it’s always possible to restore our communication with our children, as long as we’re open minded and we learn from our mistakes. We must keep in mind that successful communication requires a two person dialogue and  to ensure this, listening is a must!

Image: [Valery Sidelnykov]